tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post5646811783300368585..comments2022-11-12T17:53:56.595-08:00Comments on Alec's Story: Me without Alec.Nicolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00356708092053820117noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post-21775200171593329142010-09-23T16:53:52.548-07:002010-09-23T16:53:52.548-07:00I had to euthanize Casey, my most special of cats,...I had to euthanize Casey, my most special of cats, on Jan 10, 1990. He had been sick - very sick - for 3 years, but it was still the most difficult thing I've ever had to do. He was 18 1/2 years old & we had been together since he was 4 weeks old. He was my soulmate & I still miss him every day, but I've managed to go on. I have a houseful of cats now, and I love each of them, but I doubt there will ever be another cat like Casey. I'm grateful to have found him and been able to share my life with him. He was the reason I became vegetarian. My relationship with him enlightened me and changed my perception of nonhuman animals. <br /><br />Alec will always be with you. How he touched your life, made you the incredible woman that you are today, expanded your ability to love and share your love. I hope that you will soon be able to accept the good fortune of having had Alec in your life and be able to find peace and joy once again.Connie, Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03352603326494248659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post-53791783309315857552010-09-21T02:30:10.011-07:002010-09-21T02:30:10.011-07:00Alec.... I am crying in front of my pc reading the...Alec.... I am crying in front of my pc reading the last post. Hope that you are doing a wonderful life somewhereels. Don't forget about Nicole, I am sure that she still will be your best friend forever<br />A huge <br />Lucky and Gtubulidaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05897039259094424527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post-49807107242249718502010-08-25T22:07:03.148-07:002010-08-25T22:07:03.148-07:00Oh, Nicole, I'm so sorry. You and Alec were te...Oh, Nicole, I'm so sorry. You and Alec were terribly lucky to have found one another; your love for him - and his for you - shines through in every word you write. Nothing can take this from you, not even death. If nothing else, Alec lives - will always live - inside you. In your head and in your heart and in every fiber of your being. <br /><br />I hope that, someday, you do find it within yourself to write that book. So many guardians would have given up on Alec after his paralysis, dismissed him as damaged goods, ended his life then and there. But you cared for him, believed in him, nurtured and nursed him back to health. Alec's story - which is your story too - is one of wonder, beauty, and inspiration. In telling it, you may even help to save the lives of other "Alecs" - and what better tribute could there be for such a lovely being?<br /><br />Be kind to yourself - and don't be afraid to let others shoulder your suffering, if only in small pieces and for a short while.kelly g.http://www.easyvegan.infonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post-83551395437095693682010-08-17T21:30:39.357-07:002010-08-17T21:30:39.357-07:00A huge lump in my throat...
Alec lives on in so m...A huge lump in my throat...<br /><br />Alec lives on in so many ways, so many emobodied by you, your words, your story. <br /><br />For me, I have memories of meeting him last summer, and of learning so much from both of you.<br /><br />And now here I am crying over my keyboard as well...<br /><br />I have been thinking of you so much, Nicole. You and Ali were and still are so supported and loved.Reaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01456378732640287979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post-90694015830505749852010-08-15T22:44:56.507-07:002010-08-15T22:44:56.507-07:00My condolences...
My thoughts are with you...My condolences...<br /><br />My thoughts are with you...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post-12973540136205975332010-08-15T21:10:56.904-07:002010-08-15T21:10:56.904-07:00So sorry to hear about this. My thoughts are defin...So sorry to hear about this. My thoughts are definitely with you.Mike Fnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post-42102496948561385332010-08-15T19:15:47.287-07:002010-08-15T19:15:47.287-07:00dear sweet nicole,
i am very touched to see that y...dear sweet nicole,<br />i am very touched to see that you have been able to write again. it's not obvious to you, but to those of us outside the immediate pain, your writing is evidence that ali lives on. i feel your love and relationship with him as though it were here physically present in front me - simply because i am reading what you so painfully and sincerely wrote from the bottom of your heart. i am praying for you daily and praying that you are able to see how full your life was for him and how that fullness continued to the end. it is evident in your post, you had HIS interests in mind when you made the decision. a central reason that this is difficult for society to grasp is that we don't make these decisions for humans. we let humans live on life support, when their spirits have already gone. yet, for whatever reason the difficult decisions are still made with our animal companions. i do believe what your vet said was true - "You took on his suffering. Now you are suffering so he doesn't have to." - you have always taken on ali's suffering, his joy, whatever he was experiencing. the two of you were one. this is a reason you struggle so much now. it is a shame the world doesn't give as much credence to the loss of an animal soulmate as it does to the loss of a human spouse/partner/etc. i do believe you are going thru a similar grief as someone who has lost a spouse. this is not easy and i hope you will know and see that you should never be expected to move through your grief on anyone's schedule but your own. this is not a process to be rushed and each step will be savored as you move through your love for ali and your future without him physically beside you. i KNOW he is with you now. it may be a long time before you see/hear/feel him the way you normally use those senses, but from a spiritual perspective i know the bond you had with him cannot be broken by time, death, space, or anything we can imagine. he is here. IN YOU. feel him and know him. i am so comforted to see you have written about your experience. your writings are always so touching and i know not only are they helping you to move through the pain but they also help others who have gone through similar experiences. i love you deeply. i pray for you daily. much love, ~cmhcara hnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6639830305130052960.post-63943487856428625792010-08-15T17:35:08.921-07:002010-08-15T17:35:08.921-07:00*hugs* I am so sorry. Sorry that you had to write ...*hugs* I am so sorry. Sorry that you had to write this post, that you had to suffer this loss, that there is so much that's just unfair...and that that's life, I guess, unfair to the bitter end. <br /><br />Yet, Alec lives on. He lives on through your love, which is unending, and through the love that we all have for him, through your words, your love. <br /><br />I still have the collar my dog wore. It's been 11 years. I don't look at it every day or even every month or every year anymore, but I always know where it is, and I know I will never willingly part with it. It isn't her, it doesn't contain her essence, but sometimes I think we need something...something we can touch, that holds shared memories...<br /><br />I can tell you that it does get better with time, but you know that, and it's not much comfort. <br /><br />If you have it in you to write a bock, do it. Maybe not now, but someday...Debhttp://invisiblevoices.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com